Complementary or Independent?

These lovely friends of mine got married a month ago

Happy Anniversary my people 🎉.

Several weeks prior to their wedding in February, God was exposing me to the importance of men and women, both gender, independent of each other but totally dependent on each other to function efficiently. Truth is one cannot function perfectly without the other, especially in the area of marriage and home building. And when I came fully on board for the preparation of their wedding, that period was like the final stage of my lesson/learning, because that was when I learnt the practical aspect (in real time) all the theories God has been exposing me to in the previous weeks: the firmness and masculinity and protectiveness of the man. The grace and beauty and gentleness of the woman. How these qualities (and more) could complement each other graciously.

During the course of the wedding planning, Tunde would see and do things in a certain way, Yene would come and bring a whole different spice to it that would make everything more interesting. Other times Yene would be approaching things from a female's point of view, Tunde would come bringing clarity and direction taking everything to a whole new level.

I was telling a mutual friend (of us three), that God indeed doesn't make mistakes.

Sometimes Tunde would get on my nerves in regards to the aspect of the planning I am handling (most probably unknowingly) but Yene (unknowing to her of how Tunde has annoyed the shit out of me earlier on) would check in (to know how things are progressing) with a natural grace and virtue, and would do/say things that would calm my nerves. And this wasn't only seen in their interaction with me but with a lot of other people and the vendors during the course of the wedding and beyond.

God is indeed wisdom.

"male and female created he them."

You can't do all bad by yourself.

That's why I would never be in support of single parenthood if one can help it.

And probably this is one of the reasons I don't support homosexuality either.

And yes, in some cases, the men would possess the qualities we think a woman should possess and vice versa, but even at that, we were all made to complement each other: Men and women.

Different but similarly functioning hormones.

Different but counterpart body structures.

Different but complementing mindset/perspective.

Dear woman, you can't do all bad by yourself. Pay attention to know what feminism really means, and in case you are a misandrist, please change that mindset, because you would always need men (or the qualities that they possess) one way or the other.

Dear men, please don't write off women as the weaker being. The current wave of feminism can never change the natural course of things. It was well thought out by the Father. So when women behaves as if they don't need you, they actually do, remember that! And you most definitely would as well be ruined without them, because you would be all just strength with no sense.

Dear man and wife, always remember you are a team. It's meant to be you against everything else, not against each other. Don't use your qualities against each other. Don't deprive each other of your peculiarities. Be truly what the word 'couple' according to Merriam-Webster Dictionary implies: 𝘁𝗼 𝗷𝗼𝗶𝗻 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗯𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗲𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁.