The 11th Commandment: Thou shalt not envy!

Envy is the side-long glance that focuses on other people that we feel are better or are better off than we are. Envy can be very destructive because it takes a keen delight in other people’s failures and faults, at least sometimes.

Covetousness doesn’t necessarily lie in wanting the other person to fail or fall. It lies in having an inordinate desire to have what belongs to your neighbor.

Envy focuses on people, while Covetousness focuses on things or possessions.

Wait a minute, I am not here to explain the difference between these two synonyms, am I?

Just go with whichever of the two rocks your boat and kindly read on, probably you will know which to stick to after reading this piece.

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I have this friend that loves his girlfriend so much, provides for her, and doesn't forget to treat her like a queen. Before he makes 5 statements, the girl's name would have come up nothing less than 5 times. And gosh, he is sweet, romantic, spontaneous and just so cool. But guess what? He likes girls. That's in the actual sense of the word. I won't categorically call him a womanizer, because he is not that bad, but damn, he seems to always lose control when it comes to girls (OK,maybe he is that bad). But truth is dude really 'loves' his babe. This is what a lot of people can relate with in today's world; there are "babes" and there is "the babe". This is unexpected of anyone, not of my friend in question either. As the case was, I know him so well so I am certain he adores his girlfriend, he just chooses to be sloppy when it pertained to this issue.

Now, there was a time I really do 'envy' the girl, I kind of admired the queenly treatment she most of the time enjoyed. Each time I feel that way, I would ask myself "would you rather be with a guy that treats you this good but cheats on you from time to time and cause you so much heartache?" And my answer was always NO. I would rather have a regular guy that won't do any extra but TRULY faithful!

We often beat our partners up for not being romantic enough, providing enough, sweet enough or what have you. We see a couple, with absolute or little background story of where they are coming from, we go all #relationshipgoals. If I were not to be very close to this pair. How would I have known all these details?

Conclusion: Don't envy anyone. Don't envy their relationships, job, wealth, home, body, nothing whatsoever, especially of people you don't know their full stories.

Contribution: discovertheword.org